Stroke It Guide Podcast
"Stroke It! Your Guide to Enhance every relationship, Especially You"
The podcast offers personal and professional growth advice from CEO's, CHO's and others rockin 'at life. It is for those wanting more peace, clarity, direction, passion, purpose, and happiness.
If this is you, let this podcast be your guide. This podcast will teach you how to care for yourself first then others. It will boost your confidence, self esteem and worth. You will become happy and fulfilled. So much so that you will have the power to give to others honestly and effectively.
Each episode offers positive self chatter featuring methods, tools, and coaching from Jenny herself towards creating positive mental health benefits first for yourself and then for the others around you as you lead from within your empire. Whether you use the STROKE IT guide on your spouse, your family members, your friends, or your executive, and management teams, applying what learned in these episodes will enrich how you DO LIFE with all those around you.
About the host:
Jenny Alday Townsend is a successful entrepreneur who has made it her mission to help others navigate the challenges of marriage, business ownership, and balancing both. After facing her own struggles in marriage and successfully overcoming them, she has developed a deep understanding of the complexities of relationships and the importance of effective communication. Jenny has since created The Stroke It Guide, which provides practical tools and strategies for individuals looking to improve their relationships. With a compassionate and empathetic approach, Jenny empowers her network to take control of their lives and relationships, and create a fulfilling and happy future for themselves.
Stroke It Guide Podcast
Ep 201 Family Trauma, Inner Narcissists & Become Unshameable | Jenny Alday Townsend
In this eye-opening episode of The Stroke It Podcast, host Jenny Townsend talks with trauma-informed healer Emma Lyons about how family dysfunction and intergenerational trauma shape the “inner narcissist” — that shaming, controlling voice that keeps us small. Emma shares how she reclaimed her power by naming that voice, setting boundaries (including going no-contact), and rebuilding her nervous system from the inside out.
From scapegoats and golden children to enmeshment and conditional love, this conversation explains the roles in narcissistic family systems — and why confronting a narcissist almost never works. Instead, Emma offers a path to becoming “un-shameable”: break the trance, stop feeding the shame voice, and come back to your own truth.
You’ll learn how to tell intuition from self-attack, why shame is about control (not growth), and how to model change without trying to fix everyone else. It’s direct, compassionate, and built for anyone ready to end the cycle and choose self-leadership.
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What You’ll Hear in This Episode
✅ Family roles 101: scapegoat, invisible child, golden child, enabler
✅ Covert vs. overt narcissism—and why calling it out backfires
✅ Intuition vs. “inner narcissist”: the one-question test
✅ Why shame keeps you stuck (and why empathy—not shame—drives growth)
✅ Emma’s B.R.E.A.K. method to dismantle the shame voice
✅ Boundaries, no-contact, and healing your nervous system
✅ Modeling change instead of fixing others—becoming truly un-shameable
Resources & Links
Free guide from Emma: 5 Signs It’s Time to Break Up with Your Inner Narcissist – https://subscribepage.io/GtaJ5s
Follow Emma on Instagram: @trauma.mmatrix
Learn more: Search Trauma Matrix on your favorite platforms
Connect with Jenny on Instagram: @thestrokeitguide
Share this episode with someone who’s ready to break the cycle
Chapters
00:00 Welcome & why most families carry dysfunction
04:12 Emma’s story: distance, discovery, and going no-contact
11:08 Family roles: scapegoat, invisible child, golden child, enmeshment
18:45 Covert vs. overt narcissism (and the danger of confrontation)
25:30 Intuition or inner critic? The quick litmus test
31:05 Shame isn’t a healthy motivator—here’s what actually heals
36:22 Emma’s B.R.E.A.K. method to end the shame trance
44:10 Boundaries, nervous-system safety, and modeling change
52:05 Resources, free download, and how to connect with Emma
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