Stroke It Guide Podcast

“Know yourself so you can show up authentically.”- Gina Riley

September 07, 2023 Jenny Alday Townsend Season 1 Episode 90
Stroke It Guide Podcast
“Know yourself so you can show up authentically.”- Gina Riley
Show Notes

On today’s episode of  Stroke It Guide, we are joined by Gina Riley. Gina is an HR professional, executive search recruiter turned career coach who created her own career transition program, Career Velocity. Gina holds a master’s degree and is a certified YouMap® coach. Beyond her impressive resume, Gina took time away from her career to raise her two boys, is a breast cancer survivor, and has been married for 31 years. Gina is vivacious and endearing and offers some appreciable advice that we can start applying in our lives today.

When it comes to stroking our spouses Gina shares several personal antidotes, but the real bombshell is that Gina teaches us to remove the word YOU from our spousal communication. Instead of casting blame with “you”, use the word I, then observe, think, feel, and request. How does that work exactly? Listen to the interview to find out!

If we’re working with colleagues, friends, or loved ones Gina reminds us to “listen without judgment coming out of our mouths.” That means we need to keep some of those opinions to ourselves and to “check our assumptions” before we respond. Once again, Gina was ready with some great examples of what that might sound like and also offers some great alternative open-ended questions for all aspects of our life.

Do you always ask your middle-shool aged son how was your day? Why not try, what made you laugh at lunch today?

Is your husband tired of talking about his mundane job? Ask him what he’d like to do this weekend instead!

Ultimately, though one theme constantly reappeared in the interview and that was,  to really show up in your life and relationships “you need to know yourself so that you can show up in the world authentically”. Gina recommends reading the book YOUMAP, and if that's something you’re ready to dive more into you can connect with Gina who is a certified YouMap® coach.

Connect with Gina here:

Gina Riley Consulting

Or at LinkedIn - *be sure to send a personal message so you don’t get overlooked.

Books mentioned in the episode:

YouMap: Find Yourself. Blaze Your Path. Show the World!

Men are from Mars Women are from Venus

Becoming Your Spouse's Better Half: Why Differences Make a Marriage Great

The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth About Extraordinary Results

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